PUSH Rules
PUSH is an event intended to build connections safely. This means that we have instituted a set of rules, and violations of these rules may result in anything from a warning to expulsion from the event and a ban from future events.
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Rules regarding Consent and Bodily Autonomy
The first and most important principles of PUSH relate to consent and bodily autonomy, which is in many senses are defining principle of kink, fetish, and BDSM. Consent is one of the main things that allows us to experiment with kink. Consent means a series of things at PUSH:
Do not touch anybody without getting clear permission to do so. This includes such things as hugs. Remember that people come to PUSH in outfits that are considered fetish wear, and in some cases these outfits are quite erotic. Thus, a hug in this environment may feel more sexual than it does in other environments. While you should always get somebody’s consent before touching them in any manner, it is even more important to do so at an event like PUSH.
If you ask for consent and receive a “no,” you may not pressure the person in any manner. This includes expressing your disappointment. While you may feel disappointed with a “no,” expressing such disappointment in a visible or verbal way can pressure the person into changing their mind, which is a violation of consent rules.
If you receive consent to touch somebody in a particular way, that does not mean you have permission to do anything else with them. Permission to hug somebody does not mean that you can rub that person’s body while hugging them. Permission to massage their shoulders does not mean you can also massage their buttocks, etc.
Be very careful about making assumptions based on body language. At an event like PUSH, many people come to freely express themselves in ways that may seem to be alluring, but that does not mean that they want you to touch or kiss them. Getting verbal consent removes this ambiguity.
Consent can be revoked at any time. If somebody tells you that they want to stop hugging, kissing, or anything else, you must respect their wishes.
If you get consent to engage in a BDSM scene, you need to carefully negotiate the parameters of that scene. Do not assume that you have permission to do anything you want with that person. You need to discuss each of your “dos” and “don’t’s,” physical and psychological limitations, the preferred intensity of the scene, and safe words. Remember that they (and you) can change your mind at any time and decide not to do the scene or to end it. If you do engage in a scene, check in with the other person on a regular basis.
Do not interrupt or get involved in another person’s scene without their consent.
Recall that consent is not just about the scene or relationship. Unless you have the explicit permission of the attendees, do not let outsiders (people who do not attend the event) know the names of people who attend PUSH. Nor may you let outsiders know about people who are involved in BDSM. This rule includes threats to "out" people.
We want everybody to have positive experiences that allow them to push themselves in ways that they find rewarding, not harmful. While consent is a good starting point for this experimentation, we also note that developing a positive kinky experience requires more than consent. It also requires you to be in tune with yourself and your partners, to be open to criticism, and to find ways to learn and grow.
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These consent rules are designed not only to create a safe space for all of those involved, but also to allow people to experiment with new things without feeling like they will be coerced into doing more than they intended. Consent in this sense is a method for achieving greater freedom for everybody to be as kinky as they want to be.
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Note that if you have any issues regarding a potential violation of these rules, please find a DM or, if you cannot find one, go to the door, and the door team will call for assistance.
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Other Rules
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PUSH is an anti-racist, body-positive, pro-queer, trans affirming space. we expect all attendees to act accordingly. any violations of this rule could lead to removal from the premises by the host.
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No photography (except for staff photographers or in the selfie booth).
Genitals must be covered at all times.Nudity and sexual activity are prohibited.
Blood play, water sports, and scat play are prohibited.
No open flames.
Be considerate of others waiting to use the play equipment. if a staff person limits your time on a piece of equipment, please respect that limitation.
Wipe down all equipment after use (disinfectant wipes have been placed near each piece of equipment)
Dungeon monitors are in charge of the dungeon (they will have DM badges and vests), and they or the host may interrupt a scene if they believe that the participants may be violating the rules and/or disturbing other attendees. Other staff members may also interrupt a scene while they contact a DM.
Any scenes involving edge play or consensual nonconsent must be pre-approved by a DM, who will then need to be there to observe the scene.
No illegal activity is permitted. the exchange of money for sexual services and the use and possession of illegal drugs are prohibited.
If you see any violations of these rules, please contact a dungeon monitor, host, or security.